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2. FAULTY COURTSHIP: It is also advisable not to parch up a problematic or faulty courtship, if there are obvious reasons not to solemnize a relationship while still in courtship, please break up. A broken courtship is better than a frustrated, heartbreaking and hypertensive marriage that may invariably lead to divorce. Let’s examine it, why do people long for marriage? Firstly, a desire for a committed relationship based on a readiness to be a blessing to someone else. Secondly, a desire for marriage can be due to the belief that it will make us complete, secure, and happy or provide something lacking in our lives as single people. Needless to say that this second reason for marriage is not valid. Marriage will make you many things but it is not guaranteed to make you complete, happy or secure NO! If you cannot be happy as a single person you will never be as a married person, this is because the single ’you’ is the same married ‘you’.
No miracle is going to happen at the altar. If you are unhappy, unproductive, insecure, or immoral as a single you will be the same as married; no other human being can make you happy aside God. The only miracle that will happen is for you to work on yourself and develop a positive mindset about life. Marriage should not be a goal we aspire to, but a decision we make after God has assisted us in the choice of partner. Too many times I see singles determined to marry committing themselves to any available person, the result is usually a life time of misery, compromise and cheating on each other and eventually divorce. As much as you will attach so much to marriage it should never be rushed into.
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
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