REASON 2: WHY COUPLES CHEAT

2. FAULTY COURTSHIP: It is also advisable not to parch up a problematic or faulty courtship, if there are obvious reasons not to solemnize a relationship while still in courtship, please break up. A broken courtship is better than a frustrated, heartbreaking and hypertensive marriage that may invariably lead to divorce. Let’s examine it, why do people long for marriage? Firstly, a desire for a committed relationship based on a readiness to be a blessing to someone else. Secondly, a desire for marriage can be due to the belief that it will make us complete, secure, and happy or provide something lacking in our lives as single people. Needless to say that this second reason for marriage is not valid. Marriage will make you many things but it is not guaranteed to make you complete, happy or secure NO! If you cannot be happy as a single person you will never be as a married person, this is because the single ’you’ is the same married ‘you’.

No miracle is going to happen at the altar. If you are unhappy, unproductive, insecure, or immoral as a single you will be the same as married; no other human being can make you happy aside God. The only miracle that will happen is for you to work on yourself and develop a positive mindset about life. Marriage should not be a goal we aspire to, but a decision we make after God has assisted us in the choice of partner. Too many times I see singles determined to marry committing themselves to any available person, the result is usually a life time of misery, compromise and cheating on each other and eventually divorce. As much as you will attach so much to marriage it should never be rushed into.

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REASON 1: WHY COUPLES CHEAT

1. FORCED OR TRAPPED INTO MARRIAGE: Couples cheat on each other when one of them has a feeling of being forced or trapped into the marriage against his or her wish. Probably due to unwanted pregnancy, or an arranged ‘arrangee’ marriage where there is actually no genuine love and commitment, this might likely be a reason for either of them to cheat on one another in the relationship. As much as parental advice is important and pastoral counseling is good, and while friendly advice is nice, when it comes to decision making; your own will should be paramount. God who has the final authority over our lives still respect our will. It is wrong to marry someone against your wish or to be married into an arranged marriage. As much as parents want the best for their children when it comes to marriage, it is best to prayerfully guide and help them make the right choice respecting their will. Be man enough to make decision on the choice of your marriage partner, it will go a long way to stabilize your marriage and help you both to weather the storm of life together.