reasons why couples cheat: 3 more reasons

8. Pressure of negative influence. Weak willed partner who cannot take decision by themselves without either consulting their friends or family may invariably fall into the hand of bad friends and wrong advisers. They may end up yielding to the pressure of negative influence and start cheating on their partners. Show me your friend and I know who you are, also, evil communication corrupt good manners. The best friend of a married woman should not be a single lady or a divorcee that is proud to be one. Also, a married man’s best friend should not be a divorcee or a single father. They can only send out the wrong influence on you consciously or unconsciously. Watch out for friends.

9. Infertility. Infertility, due to health problems such as low sperm count, sexually transmitted diseases leading to pelvic inflammatory diseases [PID], uterine tumour or growth, or ovarian tumour or some infertility-oriented problems may cause cheating in some marriages. Infertility can be due to spiritual problems, and sometimes either of the party may be unwilling to wait any longer. You first need to identify the problem first, is it physical or spiritual? What medical advice have you sought? It can some times be due to your past history especially for women who may have aborted or do such things in the past. It is not a time to fight because there is nothing that God cannot do. Mutually agree on how you can resolve the problem, or go for child adoption or be involved in some other ways to bring up other peoples children.

10. Long separation :Extreme distant relationship, or marriage by correspondence or through phone calls, allowing time of separation to stretch too long may bring temptation in to the life of one or either of the spouses thereby leading to cheating. A man is to cleave to his wife is the first law of marriage. When you are separated from your wife or when you are working in different locations such that you only meet your wife once or twice in a year, then you are inviting the devil to be your partner. If this can be avoided, please avoid it. The pressure of work and creating a future that may not exist for the two of you is not enough reason to be separated for too long. We are still human.

6. Discouragement: due to the fact that one of the partners is a hard- to- please or difficult individual. Sometimes such a partner is not ready to change in spite of all the effort of the other party. For instance, when the attitude of the wife makes the husband feel less like a man and he wants to prove to himself and his wife; he may sometimes fight back by cheating on her. Or in a situation where the attitude of the husband makes the woman lose confidence in herself, maybe she has always being abused publicly, she has never been appreciated, her dressing is never noticed or her looks commended on. She may want to be positively noticed just for once, she may desire to seek for attention outside the home by falling prey to any outside admirer, such wives could secretly cheat on their husbands just because of the need to be appreciated. A major solution is to discuss your observation with your partner.

7. Temptation. Husbands that cannot wisely, and maturely handle the opposite sex most time fall victim of temptation that normally leads to cheating on their wives. Everybody is being tempted one way or the other, it is left for us as couples to make up our mind on either to have, hold and keep our marriage or become a victim in this area. Most time, couples will save our marriage if we are sincere about the temptation we face and if we honestly share them with our partners. Do not argue that your partner will misunderstand you, handle it wisely, and let your spouse be your best friend and confidant.

SOLUTION
For instance, if you as a husband are being unduly chased by another female colleague at the office or a female customer and you notice she is too close for comfort, you can make your wife handle her calls, text messages or visits, this will definitely send a message to her that she is an intruder. Besides, proudly display your wife’s picture and family picture anywhere, any time. Talk beautifully well about her, let her and not the secretary follow you for most occasions and immediately make your stand known to people about your relationship. If you cannot proudly display your wife’s picture due to one short coming or the other on her side please upgrade her to your level, your marriage is worth fighting for because, it’s going to be your security at old age.

Beware of un-due closeness and friendliness with the opposite sex leading to some irresistible temptations; you are still flesh and blood. This also goes to the wife, do not be un-duly attracted to another man; if you must seduce a man, do seduce your husband. Do not fall prey to being over- flattered by another man, it may lead to some irresistible temptation. Couples who ignorantly leave their home to chances thinking all is well; may not be doing a good job by being over-confident about issues relating to their marriage.

Why couples cheat on each other- No 5 reason

5. Vengeance is another deadly reason spouses cheat on themselves and this is most common among the wives (sorry to say). Wives become revengeful when they have being hurt, wounded, abused, disvalued, mistreated and bastardized by their husband and they want to get back at their husbands at all cost due to the root of bitterness that had sprung up as a result of the hurts. Sometimes because they just want to “show” their husband or get even with them you see such wives cheat on their husbands. They give up on their marriage vows, throw caution to the wind and allow the devil to take the better part of their reasoning. The greatest enemy of love in marriage is un-forgiveness. One area spouses should be very alert in their union is the area of un-forgiveness and vengeance. When it comes to forgiveness in marriage we, as the offended spouse should keep on forgiving. It is only in the marital union you may be offended 490 times according to the answer Jesus gave Peter. But do you know that marriage is a union of two great forgivers and not two great lovers? Relationships that are outstanding grow on forgiveness and not on perfection! Whatever might be the offence of your spouse, forgive and do not think of revenge. I’m sure his or her offence might be great but please still do forgive, that is the only way you can have inner peace and also save your marriage.

THE EFFECT OF VENGEANCE
Couples who harbour un-forgiveness against each other hardly do anything good together. The only place where prayer of agreement works faster is within the home of the married, because your husband or wife is your divinely appointed permanent prayer partner. With un-forgiveness in a home spouses retard the growth and progress of that marriage and the relationship. It is in such homes you see lack of productivity, hostility, unfruitfulness and barrenness. In-fact children from such homes are rarely happy.

SOLUTION
Do not keep records of wrong, God only forgive your trespasses to the degree you forgive your partner, when you do not release him or her, God allows the devil also to hold you in captivity; until you forgive you are not forgiven, period! Mind you, you do not have right of ownership on vengeance or revenge; only God has it, and that is why he said vengeance is mine. The heaviest load any spouse can carry is grudge, but if you quit nursing grudge it will surely die. The moment you make up your mind to cheat on your spouse because you think you want to pay him back, the devil has gotten the better part of your home and life. He knows the game and he plays it smarter than you, when you give him an inch he goes a mile, he will definitely help to destroy your home more than the access you think you gave him; he comes to kill, steal, and destroy and you will DEFINITELY be the loser on the long run.
Remember the song, "Forgive, don't let it live..."

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